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Dear Quota Team,

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I have a major client who represents about 15% of my annual quota. We have quarterly in-person meetings and he always insists on meeting at the same strip club for our business review. He always pressures me to get drinks, get dances, and "loosen up" throughout our meeting. I'm married and deeply uncomfortable with the whole situation, but when I suggest meeting at his office, he brushes me off. He's a loyal client who always renews his contract after these meetings, but I dread these quarterly reviews and worry about explaining to my wife why I keep having to go to strip clubs for work. How do I redirect this relationship to more appropriate venues without upsetting him?

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Uncomfortable in Location withheld 

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Dear Uncomfortable,

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This ultimately comes down to what you value more: 15% of your annual income or avoiding the discomfort of four awkward meetings per year. You have three realistic options here:

1) Suck it up and treat these meetings as an unpleasant but lucrative part of your job.

2) Suggest an equally "indulgent" alternative like an expensive steakhouse that might appeal to his desire for a non-traditional business environment.

3) Transfer this account to a colleague who's more comfortable with this situation.

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Be honest with yourself about your boundaries. There's nothing wrong with deciding this crosses a line for you personally, but don't expect to change a client's established preferences without offering an appealing alternative or being willing to walk away.